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How to celebrate marriage

The first question that must have arisen in your head is about what will happen before , during and after your speech.

To be able to celebrate the wedding in an organic and fluid way, you must always keep in mind what is the sequence of events of a so-called "traditional" wedding.

To guide you on this journey, I brought you the most traditional sequence of wedding entries:

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  1. Groom entrance

  2. Groomsmen entrance

  3. Florist entrance

  4. Bride entrance

  5. Opening remarks by the celebrant

  6. Alliances entry

  7. Speech about alliances

  8. Solemn question to the couple

  9. Exchange of votes

  10. Exchange of alliances

  11. Signature of a symbolic social term

  12. Closing speech

  13. "You are husband and wife, you can kiss"

Being aware of this already saves you a lot of worries and will make you more confident of how and when to position yourself. So, record this sequence and reread as many times as necessary.

An addendum: entries should only start when the bride arrives at the wedding venue and is "hidden" inside the car. This avoids all that "where's the bride" tension, "did something happen?". It also prevents you from standing, tired / tense unnecessarily.

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Now, some clarification on these entries:


About the bride's entrance, the main tip is:


Be aware of your arrival, butdon't get involvedin the preparations leading up to that moment.


This is the moment for you toprepareand ifto concentrateto make a good speech. Take a deep breath and mentally remember the sequence of the ceremony.


Always count on the help of aceremonialist, someone who will be behind the scenes responsible for taking care of the florist, the bridesmaids and organizing the groomsmen line.


Remember if:as much as you are friends with everyone there, if you go there to organize things you could end up getting disorganized and contributing to a mess. Follow the advice of those who have been through this several times and know what they are talking about.


On the solemn question:


It's that defining moment in every wedding when the ceremonialist asks the bride and groomif it is of their own free will that they marry.

solemn question

-Maria of such, it is of your own free will that you acceptJohn of suchas her lawful husband?

- Yes

-John of such, it is of your own free will that you acceptMaria of suchas your lawful wife?


As the marriage, in this case, has no civil effect - no bureaucracy is involved - you can formulate the question in the way you find most appropriate.


Remember that the question  is no longer asked"If anyone has anything against this marriage, let him speak now or forever hold his peace.", it was replaced by the period of proclamations made at the civil notary, so don't make that gaffe.

To celebrate a marriage with civil effect it is necessary to do thereligious minister course, and in this course you learn that the bride and groom's answer has to be YES, no jokes.

It is foreseen in the civil code that if one of the betrothed (engaged) hesitates, shows doubts when answering the solemn question, the wedding must be postponed for 48 hours.

​ There are many bureaucratic details learned in the religious minister course, so that there is no illegality and possible annulment of the civil effect.



About the final statement:


The final declaration of the ceremony, "you can kiss"  must be done with vigor and a lot of enthusiasm!


It's the moment when everyone applauds and the bride and groom tackle thatcinematic kiss.


OCarefulhere is to say thatthey can kiss, but without taking away the role of women, avoidingconflictson gender issues.


Therefore, you should not use the phrase"You can kiss the bride", but you must replace it with“you can kiss”, in plural.


Another important fact about the closing statement is that you cannot say"in the name of the laws, in the name of the powers conferred upon me, I pronounce you husband and wife"whyyou have no legal authority to do so.(If there is a notary owner passing through the premises, you will have legal problems.)


You can say something like:"in the name of the forces of nature that surround us"  or if you are religious and feel good about it, you can say something like "in the name of God I pronounce you husband and wife". 

In the latter case, it depends on your relationship with God, and I'm not going to say whether or not you can say that.

​ Now it's up to thebride and groom, because if you got to that partthe wedding was successfuland youaccomplished its mission!


wedding speech

It is very common for the bride and groom to invite a friend or family member to give the wedding speech for them.

That's because people are tired of endless preaching or controversial comments during their wedding ceremony.

As a person who was celebrating a wedding and asked the bride to swear to be submissive to her husband, a case that became famous in 2021.

So if you want to know how to give a wedding speech that everyone will remember, think about two main points:

  1. do not make comments that could be misunderstood;

  2. Be brief.

By being brief in your speech, you ensure that people will hear your entire message.

If you bring a very long message to the ceremony, what people absorb will be random, because neurolinguistics has proven that people can only pay attention for a few minutes.

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Did you like what you've learned so far?

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Well don't think it's over. To finish I prepared one last gift for you.

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Today I live in Ubatuba, north coast of SP and I am living from these weddings.

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I strongly believe in the law of return and so I want to share with you, who was invited to celebrate the wedding of friends or relatives, several useful tips.

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The first thing I want to share is an EDITABLE WEDDING CERTIFICATE for you to take printed on the day of your ceremony and surprise the bride and groom.

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Then fill in and tell me your email, down there that I will send you as soon as possible, I promise.

Você é o único!

O único que pode presentear os noivos com uma cerimônia de verdade.

Que seja a cara dele!

Você acha que eles merecem uma cerimônia surpreendente?

Então aperte agora no botão abaixo e acesse agora o kit.

Wedding Songs

If you, in addition to celebrating the wedding, were also in charge of the songs that will be used at the wedding entrances, I have separated a complete list of national and international songs to be used at the wedding.

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They will be sent to your email shortly after the editable marriage certificate.

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But just so you know, there are usually 8 songs played at the wedding, namely:

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  1. Groomsmen entry;

  2. Groom entrance;

  3. Procession of the bride and florist;

  4. Entrance of the bride;

  5. Alliances music;

  6. Musical background in the exchange of votes of the couple;

  7. For the departure of the godparents;

  8. Exit of the bride and groom.

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